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Henry Dethlefsen Obituary

Henry Gale Dethlefsen was born on April 6, 1952, in Stockton, CA, to Henry Mier Dethlefsen and Lola Louise (Parker) Dethlefsen. He entered into rest on November 6, 2025.

Henry graduated from East Nicolaus High School, Class of 1970. Shortly after, he married the love of his life, Sherry Lynn (Harper), on July 24, 1970.

They were high school sweethearts and remained devoted to one another for 55 years. Their love was dedicated, faithful, and genuine, built through shared work, joy, humor, and choosing one another daily.

To Henry, Sherry was his partner, his comfort, his laughter, and his heart. And in true Henry fashion, if you asked how he was doing, he'd smile and say, "I don't know, Sherry hasn't told me yet." And truly, where you saw one, you saw the other.

Together, they welcomed three daughters, Tina Gale (Lloyd Taylor), Kimberly Ann (Aaron Cheever), and Amanda Lynn.

Henry was "Happa" and "Grandpa" to Amanda Nicole and Shawn (Savannah), and "Great-Grandpa" to Hunter and Nova.

Henry grew up working the land alongside his father and grandfather, farming rice, walnuts, almonds, potatoes, grain, and hay throughout the 1960s and 1970s.

He later worked at Yuba Sutter Mobile Home, gaining skills he would carry throughout his life. In the late 1970s, he began working in construction with Dean Webb Construction, where he earned one "atta boy" in all his years there, and that single "atta boy" was a badge of honor.

He helped build the home where he and Sherry would spend his last years surrounded by family. He earned his contractor's license in 1990, and engineering license in 1991, and later became self-employed, building and erecting metal buildings for Star Buildings.

Later in life, Henry used those same skills to help place and set the homes for Tina, Kimmie, and Amanda on the family's 20 acres, where he and Sherry also lived.

Having his family together on the same land brought him deep pride, peace, and joy, a continuation of the values and traditions passed down in his family.

Henry loved riding motorcycles, racing cars, building parade floats, crafting church centerpieces out of wood, and solving any mechanical puzzle placed in front of him.

Some of Henry's best days were spent in the shop with Larry and Mark, leaning over classic cars, sharing stories, turning wrenches, and enjoying the simple blessing of good work and good friends.

He was especially known for his Ryobi tool obsession, there isn't much out in his shop that isn't Ryobi green. And when a project was just about finished, he was known to say, "Good enough for who it's for."

He enjoyed camping trips, homemade ice cream, and cheering from the sidelines. His happy place was outside, especially on the patio or under the gum tree at the ranch, surrounded by family, smiling and saying, "This is what it's all about."

Henry raced at Triple M Speedway, where his car proudly carried #70, and he made lifelong friends along the track and in the pits.

He also spent time riding motorcycles in Kettleman City, CA, usually on one wheel, not two, adding stories that were told and retold for years.

Henry joined Wheatland Community Fellowship Church of God on February 28, 2016. He loved his church family and served on the church board.

He became known as the Candy Man, always handing out Werther's. He prayed before family meals, kept scripture close, and read Bible verses and trivia on his phone, right alongside his favorite solitaire game.

He is survived by his wife; daughters; grandchildren; great-grandchildren; sisters, Vivian (Mark Patche) and Mary Johnson; and brothers-in-law, Terry and Steven Harper; along with many extended family members and dear friends who will miss him greatly.

He is preceded in death by his parents; his daughter, Amanda Lynn; and his brothers-in-law, Mike, George, and Timmy.

Henry lived a life of hard work, faith, family, and deep love. His legacy is held in the hands he helped, the home he built, the land he cared for, and the people who loved him, and as Henry would say with a smile, "Glad you got to see me."

A memorial service will be held at 11 AM on November 13, 2025, at Wheatland Community Fellowship, 4753 Wheatland Road, Wheatland, CA, with Pastor John Burns officiating.

To plant trees in memory, please visit the Sympathy Store.

Published by Appeal Democrat on Nov. 12, 2025.

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Coach Wahl

November 12, 2025

I remember Henry well. I had the pleasure of coaching him when he played football at East Nicolaus High School. He was a super great kid then and obviously a great person as an adult.

Gary & Mary Van Dyke

November 11, 2025

Our love and prayers are with your families during this difficult time. May memories of a wonderful life fill your hearts.

Linda Harper-Abell

November 11, 2025

Henry was truly one of a kind. Big guy with an even bigger heart. Bob and I will love and miss you fella . You and I got off to a rather rocky start but you became a favorite family member to me. Love you nephew now and always

Kenny DeSouza

November 11, 2025

To Sherry and the family im so sorry for the loss of a really good man and a real friend of mine.We had a lot good times in the years of hauling the rice for senior and junior and this is for sherry like me and Henry always said and you disliked .it is was it is and we will finish this no matter what with love Kenny &susan DeSouza

Doug and Cheryl Taylor.

November 11, 2025

Always a warm welcoming smile whenever you saw Henry. He had a heart the size of Texas, always willing to help out when someone was in need. He could fix just about anything and everything. He loved his family deeply. He also loved the Lord and his church family. I loved his sense of humor him always saying "glad you got to see me". And I was always glad to see Henry and Sherry. Their love was an inspiration to many, always together and Sherry always caring for Henry on all of his good days as well as the not so good ones. All of your girls are going to miss you Henry but I hope they hold on to the precious memories and time spent together till your last days. May God bless and provide strength to Sherry each day ahead. Sending love and prayers to the family. We love you all. Doug and Cheryl Taylor.

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