ELLENBORO- Tami Barbara Scism , an eccentric, earthy, free-spirited soul who was a little witchy and perhaps even a tad feral, shuffled off this mortal coil on September 29, 2025, at the age of 64, right where she wanted to be—on the farm in Ellenboro, NC. Born in Shelby, NC, on July 14, 1961, Tami often mused that she lived on the "third rock from the Sun." Her quick wit and boundless spirit left an indelible mark on everyone lucky enough to have crossed her path.
Tami was a culinary wizard, known far and wide across Ellenboro for her unparalleled cooking skills. She could whip up a feast that would make even the most discerning palate swoon. But when she wasn't dazzling taste buds, Tami could be found indulging in her love for collecting rocks, crystals, cool jars, and sticks. To some, they were just objects, but to Tami, they were treasures filled with stories and magic.
She joins in the great beyond her father, Forrest Everette Scism; her husband, David Decker; and her grandson, Benjamin Guy Fagan. They will surely welcome her with open arms, ready to continue their cosmic conversations.
Left to cherish her memory are her daughters, Jessica White and husband Ernest Guy Fagan and Aimee White and husband Greg Whitaker; her son, Geoffrey Hamrick and wife Misty Ledford; and her delightful grandchildren, Layla Fagan, Finley Fagan, and Abbi White. Her mother, Gwendolyn Mull Nix; sister, Tracy Stafford and husband Steve; brother, Jeff Scism and wife Bryte; and numerous adoring nieces, nephews, and fur babies—Uno, Chloe, and Emily—will remember her fondly.
A celebration of Tami's extraordinary life will be held at her home on the farm on Saturday, October 4, 2025, at 2:00 PM (368 New House Road, Ellenboro, NC 28040). Attendees may find themselves richer with laughter, stories, and perhaps a newfound appreciation for mystical rocks and star stuff.
Donations can be made in Tami's honor to two of her favorite rescues Heart of the Foothill or Clifford's Army Rescue.
As we bid farewell to Tami, let us remember her not just for her humor and warmth but for the stardust-sprinkled path she left behind. "The elements will continue to recycle all that the living bodies, in their short spans of life on earth, inherited from other organisms. That stuff, the star stuff that became us stuff, has thickened the dews of thousands of mornings."
Services are entrusted to Clay-Barnette Funeral Home & Aquamation Center www.claybarnette.com
To plant trees in memory, please visit the Sympathy Store.
1401 W. Dixon Blvd, Shelby, NC 28152

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